The black one looks like it's stamped out of sheet metal--I would avoid it. The other 2 look to be cast and much better quality.
I do mine the same way, just take the whole thing off with my breaker bar, pop in a new filter, add some oil and screw it back on. Once in many changes I use a chain wrench or the vise to remove the end and change that o-ring.In my case, the middle thing was tightened so much that it's like welded to the outside. So my wrench square unscrews the whole assembly, I bought the wrench for nothing.
I might replace that one day, but for now it worked fine like that, just had more oil leaking on the outside of the filter case, that I had wiped.
The first one for is made for the 4 cylinder. The third is made for the V6. Avoid the black one. I highly recommend you get a 3/8 torque wrench because you can apply too much torque using these tool with a wrench. Taking the filter off with this tool is a breeze if it is torque properly. If you have the plastic oil filter housing be very careful removing this because you can easily break it when removing a tight filter. Also note that if you have the aluminum oil filter you can actually use the first or third wrench. I have an aluminum oil filter and both the first and third wrench work on my V6.
I think I can help you remove it. You need a tight fitting oil filter wrench to remove a very tight oil filter. I have the Assenmacher Toy640 and that removed a tight oil filter. I accidentally over tighten it to the point my oil filter wrench broke with a two foot breaker bar. I thought I was loosening it but was doing the opposite. This is a very tight fitting oil filter wrench which worked on my metal oil filter for the V6. Long story short I used the Toy640 to remove my oil filter which was on super tight.I tried to use my battery-powered impact gun to release that and didn't budge. Being made of aluminum probably once somebody tightens it to the "melting point", there is no going back...
That was the first oil change on my ownership. Sadly one month later we all got quarantined and working from home. I miss my "me" time driving home from work and listening to my music.
I guess you need to take the housing off and put it in a vice. It appears the person who tighten it just did it the lazy method by turning the center drain super tight so they can turn the center drain to remove the entire filter. Probably the mechanic does not have the proper wrench or too lazy to look for it.The main casing is easy to remove. The middle part, small, is not coming out. Maybe somebody cross threaded it before, or use an impact to put it back on (that's what happens when you the oil changes at shops that are big national chains, with low wage HS kids working part-time).
That middle being stuck is more of an aesthetic thing, it's there you can drain the fluid in a cleaner way trough it. I saw replacements on Rockauto for like $18. Maybe next oil change...