I still can't confirm that the Gentex mirror can be installed on a 2021 RAV4 XLE without needing an adapter.
One Toyota dealer in Silicon Valley told me they could get the mirror for $216.32 - this is better than the Gentex replacement cost; they never asked for VIN. But my local Santa Cruz dealer first asked for my VIN (huh?), then told me that part is not available for my trim! When I told them about the other dealer, they claimed this dealer would probably be selling me a third-party, non-OEM part. They went on to tell me that I can't have the mirror I want because of wiring issue and furthermore it might require software configuration!
I'm starting to feel like I'm beating a dead horse.